When your house starts to smell, it's probably time to take out the trash. The same can be said when your life starts to stink.
There's only so much room in our lives for anything, whether it be people or activities or jobs or what have you. When our lives are filled to the brim with negativity, there's no room left for the positive. That's when you know it's time to spring clean your life.
I used to think that life is hard, and that's just the way it is. But that's not really the case. For the most part, life is hard when you make it hard. Sure, there will always be trying times, but much of the negativity in our lives is only there because we allow it to come in or because we allow it to stick around.
The most liberating realization I ever came to is that my life is mine and no one else's. It seems simple enough, but it's really a profound truth when you think about it. Let me give you an example. I was incredibly stressed and miserable at a job I hated for over a year. I dreaded going into work every morning and watched the clock all day long until I could leave.
I used to think I was stuck because it was a good job and I had bills to pay. But that wasn't the case at all. I did not actually need to be there. I was choosing to be there by not taking the necessary steps to change my position. When I left that company for my new job, my life started improving drastically in more ways than one. I was happier in every facet of life as a result, not just at work. When I removed that negativity for my life, I suddenly had all this room for positivity to come flooding it, and it did.
The same can be said for people. Everyone always says the have to deal with this or that person's drama because they're family or they've been around forever or they've done so much for you, whatever the case may be. And that's not true either. If someone does not contribute positivity to your life, you do not have to put up with them. Any relationship can be toxic, no matter who it is, and there comes a time when it's necessary for your own mental health to stop dealing with it.
Whatever situation you may find yourself in, you can almost always change it. Find a new job. Leave your unhealthy relationship. Cut off that bad friend. Stop making excuses like now is not the right time or what if things get better down the road. It may not be the best time, but is there ever really a perfect time to change your life for the better? I don't think so.
I think some people complain too much about the "bad hand" life has dealt them. What they forget, I think, is that in a game of poker, you can discard the cards you don't want and draw again. We're not stuck in terrible situations because life put us there. We are only stuck when we choose not to walk away.
We're still in the middle of the Lenten season, which is a time for giving things up. Maybe that doesn't have to be limited to sacrificing the things we like for forty days. Maybe we give up things that are bad for us. It's a season for change, and many of us could benefit from taking advantage of it.
As we're spring cleaning ahead of Easter celebrations, I'm thinking about cleaning the dirt and clutter out of my life as well.
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