Resolve the resolution


It’s rare that I’ll criticize or talk down to people, but know that when I do it’s not to push them away or insult them. It’s to motivate them to do better. Every year since I can remember knowing anything about making New Year’s resolutions, one thing is guaranteed. The resolutions never get fulfilled. For whatever reason or excuse, whether we are declaring a strict diet for the year or putting down those cigarettes and beer cans, we just can’t do it. Here’s my resolution this year: improve my writing. It’s been the same since I was 18 years old. Each year, I’ve gotten better and reached a higher level. I’m not stopping now.

Many have been fighting to complete the exact same resolution year-after-year: weight-loss, smoking, drinking, saving money, being faithful to my spouse, not fighting my spouse. But the truth of the matter is, we have 52 weeks in a year – an extremely long time. What most don’t know is that it takes about six weeks to break or form a habit. So, if you can maintain your resolution through the first month without skipping a single day then you should well on your way to fulfilling a dream. Is that hard to do? Yes. It’s very hard.

This year the way I’m approaching it is this though; this is something I want to do, not just a need. There is a guy named Eric Thomas who gives motivational speeches. His most famous one is of him telling a group, “When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful.” Apply that quote to your resolution.

When you want to stop spending money as bad as you want to breathe, you will do it. Like Thomas said, of course we need to breathe, but go under water and see how bad you want to breathe. The idea of knowing you can’t breathe under water makes you want to breathe that much more. Use that same energy, that same mindset of wanting breathe to maintain the diet you want.

My resolution will be achieved because it’s what I want to do. When I made the resolution I insured this is what I want as bad as I want to breathe. It’s 2013 and besides the Mayans said we wouldn’t even see the year, so we are already beating the odds. Defy more odds and reach your goals and resolutions. Be proud to set tough goals because after the pain and struggle to do it, you’ll be glad you did it.

If last year’s resolution failed and the year before, worry not because we have a clean slate - a new opportunity. Let’s take advantage of it and be successful in accepting the challenge and beating it. 2013 is your year.